Today I received a letter from the Family Mediation service. McDad has approached them because ‘he feels mediation may be helpful in resolving differences between’ you.
Apparently he thinks this is a good idea.
Actually this is less about access to his child and more about asserting control. For the last 10 years I have encouraged him to be involved and he has chosen not to. He has not actually asked to see her in over a year! He preferred to see her if and when she happened to be at his mothers.
Now for the pleasure of mediation I am expected to pay £65.00 for the initial session, £120-140.00 per subsequent sessions and £100.00 per document.
As he is unemployed he will receive some kind of legal aid.
Now, what exactly are we going to mediation about? I presume it’s his access to his child and that we all should just ignore his aggressive violent nature and let him take this kid unsupervised.
So where do I go from here?
Is mediation mandatory?
Is it even a good idea?